Comments on: A Slight Case of Writer’s Blog(ck)

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 00:23:12 +0000

Denise,
It sounds like you’re getting worn down by your husband’s repeated behavior, and I hope you will be able to find some relief, even if it’s just a quiet afternoon all to yourself. I think it’s wise to take time to seek counsel and carefully look at what actions you should take because whatever you do will affect your whole family.

I think when people get involved in sexual sin it sometimes seems like thier personality has changed — maybe it’s the deception, maybe it’s the fantasy world they live when they use porn. At any rate, your husband’s energy and focus is not where it should be, which is on his wife and family. That resulting hurt is difficult to live with day after day.

So I hope your counselor will help you in setting boundaries with him that will not only let him see the serious nature of what he’s doing, but will also enable you to take care of yourself. Only you know what those will be, and I pray that God will give you wisdom and peace as you explore this. Please check out my WifeBoat Just for Today posting for some things to do in the meantime. And please check back with us here and let us know how you’re doing. God Bless. -R

By: Denise

Denise — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 19:53:35 +0000

I have been battling my husband going back to porn for 15 years now. He has stopped for 4 months to 2 years at a time (so he says) and last month he took 9 pictures of a family members cleavage. He doesn’t want to be this person and has gone to counseling and is going to counseling again. I really don’t want to be married to him any more not just because of the porn but I just don’t like his personality any more (or is that because of all the times he’s hurt me). I know it would destroy my family and that God doesn’t want families broken up. Since it is so fresh I’m not acting rash – I’m being still and waiting on God but also seeking some counsel for me and the children. Please pray for us!

By: Renee

Renee — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 07:00:03 +0000

Sonya,
I’m reminded of an old hymn, “The Quiet Hour” which we used to sing alot when I went to Calvary Chapel. It’s stuck with me all these years. I wish I had room for the whole song. The first verse is

” Speak, Lord in the stillness, while I wait on Thee;
Hushed my heart to listen in expectancy”.

The song goes on about listening, how His Words are food for our sprit, and yeilding to Him; the last verse describes someone who has been ministered to and nurtured by being in the presence of God:

“Like at watered garden, full of fragrance rare,
Lingering in Thy presence, let my life appear.”

What a treasure this little hymn is. -R

By: Sonya

Sonya — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 22:41:54 +0000

Renee, thank you for re-opening our ears to God’s soft assurances today. My mind knows He is ever present, and that I am a protected, precious treasure to Him. But sometimes, the deafening roar of my current circumstances make His whispers inaudible to me.
At least for the present moment, I am still. I am listening. I hear. Thanks for turning up the volume.