Comments on: Questions Wounded Wives Ask http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/ Safety.Community.Direction Mon, 09 Jan 2012 00:22:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: Gaby http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-12106 Gaby Mon, 09 Jan 2012 00:22:00 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-12106 I found out a year ago that my husband of two and a half years had affairs with other men plus was on a porn website where he had his profile set up. We have gone to several different types of counseling, individual and marriage. He believes he is cured yet will not admit his sin or discuss it with our pastor. Actually he wanted to attend a new church and we did for some time but we are not connected there. I began to attend our previous church with my son (where he grew up-now 20) and my husband wants nothing to do with it yet he will go with hesitation. He will no longer seek counseling because according to him, he's cured. He will not seek pastoral counseling. He does not pray with me. When he was in counseling, he would read the Word every morning but he's not doing that either. I ask him if he is doing anything he shouldn't and he asks me why i ask him those questions but then again i know he wouldnt admit it if he did. I'm not sure what to believe . I'm holding strong to the Lord knowing that he will make my next step clear. I'm having major trust issues with my husband. He tells me he loves me and wants us to be together yet I sense the secrets. I found out a year ago that my husband of two and a half years had affairs with other men plus was on a porn website where he had his profile set up. We have gone to several different types of counseling, individual and marriage. He believes he is cured yet will not admit his sin or discuss it with our pastor. Actually he wanted to attend a new church and we did for some time but we are not connected there. I began to attend our previous church with my son (where he grew up-now 20) and my husband wants nothing to do with it yet he will go with hesitation. He will no longer seek counseling because according to him, he’s cured. He will not seek pastoral counseling. He does not pray with me. When he was in counseling, he would read the Word every morning but he’s not doing that either. I ask him if he is doing anything he shouldn’t and he asks me why i ask him those questions but then again i know he wouldnt admit it if he did. I’m not sure what to believe . I’m holding strong to the Lord knowing that he will make my next step clear. I’m having major trust issues with my husband. He tells me he loves me and wants us to be together yet I sense the secrets.

]]> By: Renee http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-12077 Renee Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:15:59 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-12077 Jackie: I'm glad that you and your husband are in the healing process now. Ideally, that process would include some sort of couples counseling and/or mentoring so that both of you have some support from others who are experienced in helping couples recover from infidelity. This helps facilitate communication and helps you get through some of the hard issues together, so you won't feel there are "undone" areas. Those "undone" areas are the ones that seem to leave a vacume where all sorts of crazy making thoughts come. Also, I'd suggest you get some personal support to go through this as well, as you may need a sounding board and some good Christian counsel on setting boundaries, grieving, trusting. Support makes all the difference. That being said, Jackie, healing from a painful experience like this takes time. Compare it to being in a car accident - if you sustained many serious physical injuries, it would take time to heal from them. I'm glad you have a strong relationship with God. Continue to trust in Him and pour our your heart to Him. Ask Him to send you the practical support you need as well. He uses other believers in our lives to bring comfort, hope, wisdom and enouragement. If there's anything WifeBoat can do, please let me know. For more information, please check the tab on <a href="http://www.wifeboat.com/wifeboat-support-groups/" rel="nofollow">WifeBoat Support Groups</a>. Take care, and stay in touch! -R Jackie:
I’m glad that you and your husband are in the healing process now. Ideally, that process would include some sort of couples counseling and/or mentoring so that both of you have some support from others who are experienced in helping couples recover from infidelity. This helps facilitate communication and helps you get through some of the hard issues together, so you won’t feel there are “undone” areas. Those “undone” areas are the ones that seem to leave a vacume where all sorts of crazy making thoughts come. Also, I’d suggest you get some personal support to go through this as well, as you may need a sounding board and some good Christian counsel on setting boundaries, grieving, trusting. Support makes all the difference.

That being said, Jackie, healing from a painful experience like this takes time. Compare it to being in a car accident – if you sustained many serious physical injuries, it would take time to heal from them. I’m glad you have a strong relationship with God. Continue to trust in Him and pour our your heart to Him. Ask Him to send you the practical support you need as well. He uses other believers in our lives to bring comfort, hope, wisdom and enouragement. If there’s anything WifeBoat can do, please let me know. For more information, please check the tab on WifeBoat Support Groups. Take care, and stay in touch! -R

]]> By: Jackie http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-12073 Jackie Fri, 06 Jan 2012 06:02:56 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-12073 I will have been married 2 years this upcoming March, and I found out back in November that my husband had cheated on me only a year into our marriage. When we met in 09 he had only been a Christian for a few months where as I have been a Christ Follower since I was a child. We hit it off so well and his passion for Christ made him all the more attractive. We spent many long nights talking about our ministries and where God would lead us. I knew he was the man that I had been praying for the entire year prior to meeting him. I was praying for whoever my future spouse was going to be. Needless to say we got engaged and married. Then I don't know what happened. The previous two longterm realtionships he had been in ended with the girlfriends cheating on him. So I knew going into the relationship that he would more than likely have trust issues. I was naive about it though. As I was dealing with still hurts from my past he wanted me to open and honest about it, so I was. Unfortunately he viewed my pain from a past relationship as me not getting over it and marrying him out of rebound. Totally not true and it was never a question of whether I wanted to marry my husband or not. He then thought that since I didn't want to be physical till we were married was because I was having triggers from my past. I told him repeatedly that it was because I wanted to remain pure for our wedding night. So for months he was had these thoughts in his mind and was trying to make sense of it all. He thought I was like his other relationships where I wasn't honest and going to hurt him. For months I was on my knees praying for him and our marriage. He became a different person towards me and then started questioning his own faith. He filed for divorce this past summer and I refused to sign the papers. I told him that divorce is not an option and that we were going to make it though what ever was going on. I had even commented that I wouldn't even divorce him if he had cheated on me. Little did I know that his anger and resentment towards me had stemmed from him being unfaithful. Then it was an up and down cycle all summer long through the fall... one minute we are looking at buying a house, the next minute he is texting me that we should go our separate ways. I remained true to praying for him everyday and throughout the day. I spent more times on my knees before God than I had my entire lifetime. Finally, things were starting to look up and he said he had peace about God and our marriage. Then he flipped out again and said it just wasn't working. Then... He finally broke down and told me what had happened. He had thought that he didn't deserve me and felt so guilty for what he had done that figured he could save me the pain of his cheating if he would just divorce me. Then he didn't want to because he saw my true heart and how faithful I had been to him and to God. He saw that I honestly was a gentle spirit who feared God over anything else. I was never going to be unfaithful or manipulative because I would have to answer to God. When he told me all this, I felt a since of relief because his actions now made since and I knew I wasn't going to crazy. So now we are going through the healing process. When we are together I have joy that I've never had before. But then... when we are apart... emotions hit me hard. I forgive my husband and I'm continually praying for protection of our marriage. I just feel bipolar sometimes... my husband is great, when I have those moments he reassures me that he isn't going anywhere and we cry together and pray together. My question is... does it get easier? Does the pain eventually go away? What can I do to take these thoughts captive and give them to God? I've seen marriages come out of situations like this stronger than ever.. How do we do that? I will have been married 2 years this upcoming March, and I found out back in November that my husband had cheated on me only a year into our marriage. When we met in 09 he had only been a Christian for a few months where as I have been a Christ Follower since I was a child. We hit it off so well and his passion for Christ made him all the more attractive. We spent many long nights talking about our ministries and where God would lead us. I knew he was the man that I had been praying for the entire year prior to meeting him. I was praying for whoever my future spouse was going to be.

Needless to say we got engaged and married. Then I don’t know what happened. The previous two longterm realtionships he had been in ended with the girlfriends cheating on him. So I knew going into the relationship that he would more than likely have trust issues. I was naive about it though. As I was dealing with still hurts from my past he wanted me to open and honest about it, so I was. Unfortunately he viewed my pain from a past relationship as me not getting over it and marrying him out of rebound. Totally not true and it was never a question of whether I wanted to marry my husband or not. He then thought that since I didn’t want to be physical till we were married was because I was having triggers from my past. I told him repeatedly that it was because I wanted to remain pure for our wedding night. So for months he was had these thoughts in his mind and was trying to make sense of it all. He thought I was like his other relationships where I wasn’t honest and going to hurt him. For months I was on my knees praying for him and our marriage.

He became a different person towards me and then started questioning his own faith. He filed for divorce this past summer and I refused to sign the papers. I told him that divorce is not an option and that we were going to make it though what ever was going on. I had even commented that I wouldn’t even divorce him if he had cheated on me. Little did I know that his anger and resentment towards me had stemmed from him being unfaithful.

Then it was an up and down cycle all summer long through the fall… one minute we are looking at buying a house, the next minute he is texting me that we should go our separate ways. I remained true to praying for him everyday and throughout the day. I spent more times on my knees before God than I had my entire lifetime. Finally, things were starting to look up and he said he had peace about God and our marriage. Then he flipped out again and said it just wasn’t working. Then… He finally broke down and told me what had happened. He had thought that he didn’t deserve me and felt so guilty for what he had done that figured he could save me the pain of his cheating if he would just divorce me.

Then he didn’t want to because he saw my true heart and how faithful I had been to him and to God. He saw that I honestly was a gentle spirit who feared God over anything else. I was never going to be unfaithful or manipulative because I would have to answer to God. When he told me all this, I felt a since of relief because his actions now made since and I knew I wasn’t going to crazy. So now we are going through the healing process. When we are together I have joy that I’ve never had before. But then… when we are apart… emotions hit me hard. I forgive my husband and I’m continually praying for protection of our marriage. I just feel bipolar sometimes… my husband is great, when I have those moments he reassures me that he isn’t going anywhere and we cry together and pray together. My question is… does it get easier? Does the pain eventually go away? What can I do to take these thoughts captive and give them to God? I’ve seen marriages come out of situations like this stronger than ever.. How do we do that?

]]> By: ann http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-9937 ann Fri, 23 Sep 2011 15:19:59 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-9937 I have been searching for a support group for infidelity. I hope you can help me. I have been married for 24 years, my husband recently cheated on me. He has actually cheated on several times in that 24 year span but this one was not a drunk in the bar one time deal. He was intimate with this woman, several times, and kept contact with her over several months the whole time telling me that he loved ME, never wanted to lose me, couldn't live without me, and we were having the best intimacy of our lives, night and morning both. Little did I know he would text her before crawling into bed with me, wake up to me say he loves me make love to me and then he run to continue texting her. He said he was so scared she would tell me about their one time of his weak moment, she was psycho and he needed to keep her from flipping out and telling me, he said he was so scared he would lose me over it. I witnessed her psycho attitude one night and she's a crazy B! But she's married, a 44 year old woman married to a 27 year old little boy, and they've only been married for a little over a year, AND she lives down the street from us! He has begged me not to leave him, he hates the very sight of that woman, wishes it had never happened, wants to start over. We have been going to counseling, he confessed this in May, but kept contact like I said to keep her quiet, then Aug 8 couldn't take anymore, blocked her from his phone and stopped all contact, then telling me the rest of the story. Yesterday we went shopping, for a b-day gift for a friend, but he pulled me aside and said lets find you a new ring, go to Vegas and renew our vows. I'm so confused, love him with my whole heart, I believe he loves me but when will he stop cheating? I have been searching for a support group for infidelity. I hope you can help me. I have been married for 24 years, my husband recently cheated on me. He has actually cheated on several times in that 24 year span but this one was not a drunk in the bar one time deal. He was intimate with this woman, several times, and kept contact with her over several months the whole time telling me that he loved ME, never wanted to lose me, couldn’t live without me, and we were having the best intimacy of our lives, night and morning both. Little did I know he would text her before crawling into bed with me, wake up to me say he loves me make love to me and then he run to continue texting her. He said he was so scared she would tell me about their one time of his weak moment, she was psycho and he needed to keep her from flipping out and telling me, he said he was so scared he would lose me over it. I witnessed her psycho attitude one night and she’s a crazy B! But she’s married, a 44 year old woman married to a 27 year old little boy, and they’ve only been married for a little over a year, AND she lives down the street from us! He has begged me not to leave him, he hates the very sight of that woman, wishes it had never happened, wants to start over. We have been going to counseling, he confessed this in May, but kept contact like I said to keep her quiet, then Aug 8 couldn’t take anymore, blocked her from his phone and stopped all contact, then telling me the rest of the story. Yesterday we went shopping, for a b-day gift for a friend, but he pulled me aside and said lets find you a new ring, go to Vegas and renew our vows. I’m so confused, love him with my whole heart, I believe he loves me but when will he stop cheating?

]]> By: Shell http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-9448 Shell Mon, 15 Aug 2011 23:43:34 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-9448 Well, so much to say. I will try to cut to the chase. I need some support. My husband of 21yrs has been diagnosed with GID (Gender Identity Disorder). That means in short he is a man that believes he should have been born a women. As you can believe that has sent this family in to a spin. an awful spin. I have search so much and I know what i believe (that it is not Gods will for him to change his body). Well, my husband; he believes in what the world is telling him, that it would be OK if he changed his body. And that there is nothing that can be done but change. BUT he has now said after almost a year that he wants to in his brain but that he isn't going to because he loves his family and wife. Nothing about God, he is trying to reconnect but still sees his worldly counselor that says nothing can be done but change. He also has his Facebook acct in his girl name. PLEASE if you have anyone who can help me I really need it. He has filed for divorce months ago and I WANT MY HUSBAND NOT THIS OTHER PART that has hurt me so bad. He seems to be doing well but it also seems that he keeps that door open just enough so he can dip so to speak. I want to trust him but when will I know and how? This secret and lies have been going on for years. I pray all the time. My christian family is falling apart . I love him the man. and i truly need help. I'm seeing a christian counselor that of course he doesn't like. Well, so much to say. I will try to cut to the chase. I need some support. My husband of 21yrs has been diagnosed with GID (Gender Identity Disorder). That means in short he is a man that believes he should have been born a women. As you can believe that has sent this family in to a spin. an awful spin. I have search so much and I know what i believe (that it is not Gods will for him to change his body). Well, my husband; he believes in what the world is telling him, that it would be OK if he changed his body. And that there is nothing that can be done but change. BUT he has now said after almost a year that he wants to in his brain but that he isn’t going to because he loves his family and wife. Nothing about God, he is trying to reconnect but still sees his worldly counselor that says nothing can be done but change. He also has his Facebook acct in his girl name. PLEASE if you have anyone who can help me I really need it. He has filed for divorce months ago and I WANT MY HUSBAND NOT THIS OTHER PART that has hurt me so bad. He seems to be doing well but it also seems that he keeps that door open just enough so he can dip so to speak. I want to trust him but when will I know and how? This secret and lies have been going on for years. I pray all the time. My christian family is falling apart . I love him the man. and i truly need help. I’m seeing a christian counselor that of course he doesn’t like.

]]> By: Esther http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-9240 Esther Tue, 26 Jul 2011 21:05:41 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-9240 Hey, looking for a place to share my feelings & get advice from women whole have or still going through what i am. So I found out a month ago my husband of 5 years had been hiring escorts for sex. I'm a stay at home mom of a 3 year old, almost 2 year old and 8 months pregnant with last baby. So to find this out was not only devestating but a total shock. He was very active in our church a great dad--so unexpected. I found out by email he had gotten. He confessed all of it and said only actually happened twice- the rest was chatting/pictures. We are currently in a Christian 12 step group and working through this. He's told me over and over how sorry and I believe he is. But I can't get past thinking of it. Thinking was it twice or more and he thinks I should be over it already.. I'm so full of mixed emotions. Hey, looking for a place to share my feelings & get advice from women whole have or still going through what i am.
So I found out a month ago my husband of 5 years had been hiring escorts for sex. I’m a stay at home mom of a 3 year old, almost 2 year old and 8 months pregnant with last baby. So to find this out was not only devestating but a total shock. He was very active in our church a great dad–so unexpected. I found out by email he had gotten. He confessed all of it and said only actually happened twice- the rest was chatting/pictures.

We are currently in a Christian 12 step group and working through this. He’s told me over and over how sorry and I believe he is. But I can’t get past thinking of it. Thinking was it twice or more and he thinks I should be over it already.. I’m so full of mixed emotions.

]]> By: Renee http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-9037 Renee Tue, 19 Jul 2011 14:43:12 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-9037 Coty: I'm so sorry for what you're going through... those types of thoughts would make a person feel trapped, and that's a set up for so many things that are not healthy. You may be feeling depressed and ruled by fear. That's why it's is important for you to get some help from an outside, objective third party. It seems to me that you may have the wrong idea about what going to a counselor is about - a counselor is there for you to have a safe place to talk about the things you need help in sorting out; once you enter into a relationship with one, it's confidential. They are not supposed talk you out of things or convince you of things you're not feeling. They help you explore what you're feeling and get a practical way to deal with the issues that brought on the feelings. There are times that your feelings are trying to tell you something, and a counselor helps you get to what that might be. Perhaps it's more difficult for you to agree to see a counselor since it was your husband that suggested it. But I'd encourage you to find a pastor, Christian counselor or even a close friend to start "laying out the details" and talk. Your husband may or may not be having an affair, but from what you said, you are feeling lost and hurt and operating under a suspicious cloud of fear--please seek someone out soon. And please check back with us here and let us know how you're doing. -R Coty:
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through… those types of thoughts would make a person feel trapped, and that’s a set up for so many things that are not healthy. You may be feeling depressed and ruled by fear. That’s why it’s is important for you to get some help from an outside, objective third party. It seems to me that you may have the wrong idea about what going to a counselor is about – a counselor is there for you to have a safe place to talk about the things you need help in sorting out; once you enter into a relationship with one, it’s confidential. They are not supposed talk you out of things or convince you of things you’re not feeling. They help you explore what you’re feeling and get a practical way to deal with the issues that brought on the feelings. There are times that your feelings are trying to tell you something, and a counselor helps you get to what that might be.

Perhaps it’s more difficult for you to agree to see a counselor since it was your husband that suggested it. But I’d encourage you to find a pastor, Christian counselor or even a close friend to start “laying out the details” and talk. Your husband may or may not be having an affair, but from what you said, you are feeling lost and hurt and operating under a suspicious cloud of fear–please seek someone out soon. And please check back with us here and let us know how you’re doing. -R

]]> By: coty http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-9031 coty Tue, 19 Jul 2011 04:28:42 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-9031 Hello... I'm needing some serious HELP. I am a prisoner to consuming thoughts my spouse isn't being faithful. I'm seeking advice of what I should do? Not ALL men are cheaters; however, there are things in my day to day life with hubby that make me suspicious. My husband is very religious, extremely devoted to his family, and a very affectionate and considerate man; however, this doesn't mean he's a perfect person and perfect husband. I'd really like a way to lay out details of day to day things I notice that cause me to feel uncomfortable and get advice. Not comfortable with a counselor situation just yet. I often feel like so much is hidden from me, that its unfair my husbands family has a special relationship with his xwife, and that my hubby has people to support him should he be choosing to have an affair with his x... such as they could be providing alibis and etc. My heart hurts so often. My husband says my suspicions aren't right and wants me to see a counselor. But I'd much rather catch him doing either right or wrong and learn for myself, than to have somone else convince me of one or the other. Just feel so "lost" and hurt inside. Hello…
I’m needing some serious HELP.
I am a prisoner to consuming thoughts my spouse isn’t being faithful.
I’m seeking advice of what I should do?
Not ALL men are cheaters; however, there are things in my day to day life with hubby that make me suspicious.
My husband is very religious, extremely devoted to his family, and a very affectionate and considerate man; however, this doesn’t mean he’s a perfect person and perfect husband.
I’d really like a way to lay out details of day to day things I notice that cause me to feel uncomfortable and get advice. Not comfortable with a counselor situation just yet.
I often feel like so much is hidden from me, that its unfair my husbands family has a special relationship with his xwife, and that my hubby has people to support him should he be choosing to have an affair with his x… such as they could be providing alibis and etc.
My heart hurts so often. My husband says my suspicions aren’t right and wants me to see a counselor. But I’d much rather catch him doing either right or wrong and learn for myself, than to have somone else convince me of one or the other.
Just feel so “lost” and hurt inside.

]]> By: suzy http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-3237 suzy Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:11:35 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-3237 I found out about a month ago that my husband was looking at inappropriate images of women on our computer. I am so incredibly hurt. we are getting counsel from church. but he doesn't seem to understand why I can't "move on" from it. Sometimes my anger is so bad toward him. I want to be tender towards him, but find it very hard to not be bitter. we've been married almost 24 years. How can I move on? I feel at the verge of tears most times. I found out about a month ago that my husband was looking at inappropriate images of women on our computer. I am so incredibly hurt. we are getting counsel from church. but he doesn’t seem to understand why I can’t “move on” from it. Sometimes my anger is so bad toward him. I want to be tender towards him, but find it very hard to not be bitter. we’ve been married almost 24 years. How can I move on? I feel at the verge of tears most times.

]]> By: Renee http://www.wifeboat.com/2009/08/questions-wounded-wives-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-3015 Renee Sun, 03 Jan 2010 23:32:50 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=766#comment-3015 Debbie: I not sure I'm answering your question right, but I'll give this as try. Are you asking why it seems we're saying that the wounded spouses should be "helping" the husband who wronged them? And why should wives feel like something was wrong with them, like they were the ones responsible? First, if a husband has committed sexual sin, he and he alone is responsible for what he's done. He may try to place blame on his wife by saying she drove him to it (for various reasons) but that would be entirely wrong. A wife, though, is responsible for how she handles her responses: Is she destuctive with her anger? Does she punish and humliate? Is she bitter? Does she try to alienate his children from him? She has every right to be angry and hurt, but she doesn't have the right to turn around and sin in return. (See Micah 6:8) A wife may decide to stay with her husband to pursue reconcilliation and healing, if she feels he is truly repentant and willing to work on rebuilding trust with her. But it is still up to him to pursue his own recovery. She cannot and should not do this for him! Then, I would say there are constructive things a wife should do to take care of herself, (see <a href="http://www.wifeboat.com/wifeboat-home/the-wb-just-for-today-list/" rel="nofollow">WifeBoat Just for Today</a>) and I always encourage women to be looking for ways to do this. I guess that's the short answer for now. I encourage you to look through some of the other articles on this blog for more. We also cover this in the <a href="http://www.wifeboat.com/wifeboat-support-groups/" rel="nofollow">WifeBoat Support Groups</a>, if you're interested in pursuing that. Blessings -R Debbie:
I not sure I’m answering your question right, but I’ll give this as try. Are you asking why it seems we’re saying that the wounded spouses should be “helping” the husband who wronged them? And why should wives feel like something was wrong with them, like they were the ones responsible?

First, if a husband has committed sexual sin, he and he alone is responsible for what he’s done. He may try to place blame on his wife by saying she drove him to it (for various reasons) but that would be entirely wrong.

A wife, though, is responsible for how she handles her responses: Is she destuctive with her anger? Does she punish and humliate? Is she bitter? Does she try to alienate his children from him? She has every right to be angry and hurt, but she doesn’t have the right to turn around and sin in return. (See Micah 6:8)

A wife may decide to stay with her husband to pursue reconcilliation and healing, if she feels he is truly repentant and willing to work on rebuilding trust with her. But it is still up to him to pursue his own recovery. She cannot and should not do this for him! Then, I would say there are constructive things a wife should do to take care of herself, (see WifeBoat Just for Today) and I always encourage women to be looking for ways to do this.

I guess that’s the short answer for now. I encourage you to look through some of the other articles on this blog for more. We also cover this in the WifeBoat Support Groups, if you’re interested in pursuing that. Blessings -R

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