Personal Worship and Healing

“Oh, there is in contemplating Christ, a balm for every wound;  in musing on the Father, there is a quietous for every grief;  and in the influence of the Holy Ghost, there is a balsam for every sore…   I know nothing which can so comfort      the soul… as a devout musing upon the subject of the Godhead”.  —Charles Spurgeon

I learned this during the time I worked through the pain of my first husband’s betrayal: personal worship leads to healing.  At first I was so numb; the jarring realization of what had happened left me wounded, grieving and hopeless.  But as I found myself murmuring vague prayers reaching out to God, I was drawn to the music of praise. During this time of personally connecting with the Lord, the most meaningful healing happened for me—soul-to soul in that place where only He could reach, I heard Him communicate His love for me.

Paradox of Praise in Pain
It seems paradoxical to praise God when your whole life has been turned upside down.  But pain can create a thirst in us that drives us to connect with the Creator who alone has the ability to give comfort and meaning.  David talked about this in the Psalms when he wrote:

 “As the deer pants for the streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God.   My soul thirsts for God, the living God. When can I go and meet with God?”  Psalm 42:1-2

Reframing Our Thinking, Changing Our Hearts
This means a lot when you consider how bound up we can be in pain that we lose our perspective. The Psalms are full of examples of praise to God in times of turbulence and confusion.  In Psalm 73 we find David discouraged and angry at the injustice he observed all around him.  In fact, he admitted to being envious of arrogant prideful people who seemed to have everything going for them except a conscience.

And so he entered the sanctuary of God (v. 17) and his perceptions were corrected. He emerged with a new understanding of reality from God’s viewpoint:

 “When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and  ignorant; I was a brute beast before You.  Yet, I am always with You.  You hold  me by your right hand.  You guide me with Your counsel and afterward you will  take me to glory.” Psalm 72: 26

David’s heart changed from bitterness to trust and reliance as he realized God’s ultimate authority over injustice and God’s goodness towards him personally. He concluded:

 “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my  portion forever”. v 26

So much that’s happening in our lives can be bleak and seem insurmountable, just like David’s did.  But rather than wait for the circumstances to change, he went into the sanctuary.

A Temple Not Made with Hands
As New Testament believers we no longer need to enter into a building or rely on a priest to worship God.  We are able to connect with God one-to-one through the work of Jesus.  His death tore down the veil of separation between God and man and He ever lives to intercede for us! (Hebrews 10:19-20, Matt. 27:51)  Through the work of the Holy Spirit we ourselves have access to the inner court of God–our own private sanctuary where we meet Him to worship. (Ephesians 2:22, I Corinth 6:19)

Jesus promised the Holy Spirit would be our Comforter and Counselor in John 14:16-17:

 “And I will give you another Counselor to be with your forever—the Spirit of  truth.  The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him.   But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you (Emphasis added)

Since we don’t have an outward building how do we enter into that ‘building not made with hands” and worship God?  My preferred way is to use a combination of reading scripture and the music of praise and worship. With those tools, I try to keep in mind three things: Focus-Consider-Vocalize

When we focus on God’s greatness rather than our own problems and weaknesses it puts things in their proper perspective. “Psalms often describe the person of God, his sublime attributes” says Ron Allen in his book Praise a Matter of Life and Breath. He says “To praise the name of God is to say something right about God.  When we say “God is good”, we’re praising His Name.”  RC Sproul, in his book Knowing God describes praise as “noting God’s nature and character as His Word and works reveal it.”
So the first step in entering in is to focus on Him and not us.

As we focus on His attributes, it naturally leads us to consider God’s history with us. What has He done in your life? How has He provided for you?  What specific times can you indentify God meeting you in tangible answers to prayer? 

Next, what do you feel God inviting you to do? Enter in, obey, and trust? Repent? When we begin to focus on the attributes of God and come into the light as He is in the light (I John 1:7) we often become aware of something He is asking us to do, believe or receive. This is the time to consider what those are and commit to them as necessary.

Speaking and singing aloud involve recognition and rejoicing in the love He has shown you and it draws you into fellowship with Him. Your words have the power of faith and affirmation.

 “Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs.  Sing and make  music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for  everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” Ephesians 5:19-20

 “Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise— the fruit of our lips that confess His name.” Hebrews 13:15

 “It is written, “I believed, therefore I have spoken” With that same spirit of faith  we also believe and therefore speak.” 2 Corinth 4:13

Praise Puts Victory and Healing in Sight
Psalm 116 is one the most intimate declarations of love for the Lord.  The Psalmist outlines his grief and trouble, how God answered prayers with such goodness that He could not do anything else but vocalize his praise to God for everyone to hear. (Psalm 116:18-19) The take-away for us is an encouragement that we too, can find rest, peace and healing when we call on the Lord in worship.

“Yet there is one common element… the concept of praise.  No matter   how intense the heart at the beginning of a Psalm of pain, ultimately the Psalm will lead to praise.” Ron Allen, Praise: A Matter of Life and Breath

Below is a “Praise Mix” I have on my iPod.  I’d love it if you’d share some of your favorite mixes with us!

Renee’s Praise Mix 1
Ain’t No Rock (Tommy Coombs Praise Band, Lift Up His Name)
There is a Higher Throne (Keith & Kristyn Getty, In Christ Alone)
Strong Tower (Kutless, Strong Tower)
Better is One Day (Kutless, Strong Tower)
Bring the Rain (Mercy Me, Coming Up to Breathe)
Only Your Love (Tommy Coombs Praise Band, Lift Up His Name)
I Surrender All (Tommy Coombs Praise Band, Lift Up His Name)
Freely Forgiven (Psalms Alive-no longer available)
There is A River (Psalms Alive –no longer available)
Word of God Speak (Kutless, Strong Tower)
In Christ Alone (Keith & Kristyn Getty, In Christ Alone)


  1. Amy,
    I’m glad you are encouraged. We really do need each other in “community” and that’s what the Body of Christ is all about! I can’t tell you how many times my spririt has been lifted and encouraged when I have been around those who I know and understand me and understand the Lord. What good will toward us who believe, and what blessings He has for us!

    I looked up the verse in Isaiah you listed above — that is one awesome verse, girl! I love it, and will refer back to it often. Thank you for sharing it.

    God’s richest blessings to you this day, and as it says in the Christmas carol “God rest you merry, my sister!” -R

  2. Reading these posts have encouraged me that I am not alone. I know that the Lord understands and long ago He got it through my heart and brain that HE WAS THE STABILITY OF MY TIMES (Isaiah 33:6) but there is nothing like “God with skin”. Thank you ladies for sharing your hearts and struggles….there are very few in the world who can understand this pain.

    Music helps me tremendously and when I think of certain songs that get me through I think of these:

    Sara Groves–Its Gonna Be Alright (from Add To The Beauty) and so many others of hers!
    Twila Paris- The Joy of the Lord
    Glory Revealed ll- all of them!
    Steven Curtis Chapman– His new Beauty Will Rise–Our God is in Control and so many others on this album.

  3. When I listen to worship music, I can let go and allow myself to fully grieve. Afterward, it’s back to the busy, busy new life of single parenthood. There is healing in the presence of the Lord.

  4. I sure appreciate your posting this and pointing me to the healer/ provider. I realize that I can not control my husband. As we don’t seem to see eye to eye, I need the Lords’ strength as I have to wait for the Lord to work and transform the circumstances.

  5. Diane Pickens says:

    Excellent word, Renee. Thinking back to my own experience of betrayal and loss, praise was the only thing that helped me to focus on God and allowed the Holy Spirit to bring comfort and healing in that dark time. The prayers were disconnected and distracted but entering into focused praise through singing or just naming Who He is helped me focus more on Him than my circumstances. Many blessings to you as you serve God in this format.

  6. Sharon – good to hear from you! Blessings to you! -R

  7. Sharon Aguilera says:

    A good word, Renee. Thanks for sharing this…..I too have known and continue to know the healing and peace that He has brought to my heart when I focus personal praise to my Lord. His Holy Spirit brings a comfort and power that only CAN come during these times in His presence. Bless you.

  8. Thanks for sharing the songs that minister to you, Rachel. -R

  9. Rachel Flowerday says:

    Praise You in this storm (Casting Crowns)
    East to West (Casting Crowns)
    Open up the sky (Deluge)


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