Comments on: SHEmergency: He’s having an affair. http://www.wifeboat.com/2010/01/shemergency-hes-having-an-affair/ Safety.Community.Direction Mon, 09 Jan 2012 00:22:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: maree http://www.wifeboat.com/2010/01/shemergency-hes-having-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-4798 maree Sun, 27 Jun 2010 18:58:42 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=177#comment-4798 This is now my life as well. It's the last thing I thought I'd choose. Not what I signed up for when I got married. I need to know where to go from here. What's best for my 3 and 4 year old? This is now my life as well. It’s the last thing I thought I’d choose. Not what I signed up for when I got married. I need to know where to go from here. What’s best for my 3 and 4 year old?

]]> By: Renee http://www.wifeboat.com/2010/01/shemergency-hes-having-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-4052 Renee Thu, 01 Apr 2010 03:39:07 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=177#comment-4052 Linda, How devestating this must be for you, and I can just feel the pain in your words. So often when something like this happens, the men get a degree of relief knowing their secret sin is finally getting dealt with. But the wives are left to deal with this in a very lonely place. How do you process your feelings, how do you accept this and "move on"? Why are you expected to? How do you forgive, and can you ever trust again? Does he realize how deeply he's wounded you? Those are all the questions that don't always have easy answers. In addition to going to joint counseling, I hope you have someone of your own to get support from. If you don't feel like you have a safe person or place to go, I would strongly suggest getting involved in one of our WifeBoat Online Support Groups. These are confidential groups with women who are dealing with the same things you are, and there is great value in hearing thier stories and receiving comfort and "group wisdom" from them. Our next group is starting again in May, so I would encourage you to check the link on this site,<a href="http://www.wifeboat.com/wifeboat-support-groups/" rel="nofollow">WifeBoat Support Groups </a>and consider registering. I also work with women on an individual support basis, when they are unable to attend the group. Please let me know if you have any questions about the format, or scheduling. I hope you can join us. God bless. -R Linda,
How devestating this must be for you, and I can just feel the pain in your words. So often when something like this happens, the men get a degree of relief knowing their secret sin is finally getting dealt with. But the wives are left to deal with this in a very lonely place. How do you process your feelings, how do you accept this and “move on”? Why are you expected to? How do you forgive, and can you ever trust again? Does he realize how deeply he’s wounded you? Those are all the questions that don’t always have easy answers.

In addition to going to joint counseling, I hope you have someone of your own to get support from. If you don’t feel like you have a safe person or place to go, I would strongly suggest getting involved in one of our WifeBoat Online Support Groups. These are confidential groups with women who are dealing with the same things you are, and there is great value in hearing thier stories and receiving comfort and “group wisdom” from them. Our next group is starting again in May, so I would encourage you to check the link on this site,WifeBoat Support Groups and consider registering. I also work with women on an individual support basis, when they are unable to attend the group. Please let me know if you have any questions about the format, or scheduling. I hope you can join us. God bless. -R

]]> By: Linda Sills http://www.wifeboat.com/2010/01/shemergency-hes-having-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3902 Linda Sills Sat, 20 Mar 2010 19:06:05 +0000 http://www.wifeboat.com/?p=177#comment-3902 I found out in August 2009 that my husband had an affair with a girl our daughters age. He went from this affair into pornography. At that time, in August, I walked in on him for the second time watching pornography and masterbating. The first time he said that he found this DVD on the parking lot of the grocery store and he was just watching it to see what it was all about. I sort of belived this. When I found him in August he immediately confessed and found a Christian counselor. He started going every Monday night and then I was asked to go also. I was humiliated to be there. I could only think, I am 65 years old and what am I doing here. We have been going to counseling since then every Monday night. I can't seem to get through this with any dignity or composure. He, my husband seems to be adjusting fine, promises no porn, no affairs, etc. I can't believe the path my life has taken. What must I do to be somewhat normal again or will I ever be? Please help me. I found out in August 2009 that my husband had an affair with a girl our daughters age. He went from this affair into pornography. At that time, in August, I walked in on him for the second time watching pornography and masterbating. The first time he said that he found this DVD on the parking lot of the grocery store and he was just watching it to see what it was all about. I sort of belived this. When I found him in August he immediately confessed and found a Christian counselor. He started going every Monday night and then I was asked to go also. I was humiliated to be there. I could only think, I am 65 years old and what am I doing here. We have been going to counseling since then every Monday night. I can’t seem to get through this with any dignity or composure. He, my husband seems to be adjusting fine, promises no porn, no affairs, etc. I can’t believe the path my life has taken. What must I do to be somewhat normal again or will I ever be? Please help me.

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