Ashely Madison: A Late Night Come-On

I was up a little late one night watching CNN waiting for a phone call from my husband, who was on the road to a speaking engagement. As the commercial came on, I got up to get a glass of water and did a double-take. In mid-step, my jaw dropped. Did I just hear what I thought I just heard? Thank goodness for DVR. If I hadn’t been able to rewind, I may have thought I was delusional from lack of sleep. But there it was. A man and woman in bed, the man is awake and uncomfortable. She’s snoring and she’s definitely not attractive. He gets up and Continue Reading

Grace and Frankie: What’s So Funny?

“'He is making a joke, no,' Will said. 'But he likes to think he is making a joke, yes.” - John Flanagan, The Emperor of Nihon-Ja We’re think laughing at someone’s pain is nothing more than petty cruelty, and we think most people agree. Continue Reading

Three Obstacles to True Forgiveness

For a wife who is dealing with her husband’s sexual sin, part of the process of forgiveness includes coming to an understanding of what she has truly lost by the betrayal, and then beginning to release the debt of the offense against her. If she doesn’t go through this process, I’m not sure she can truly say “from her heart” she has truly forgiven. (Matthew 18:32-35) But forgiveness can be a challenge because the hurt may still resonate, and the emotions and fears combine to add confusion as to what true forgiveness looks like.  Here are Continue Reading

Cultivating your BFFs

A few years ago, there was a short-lived reality show called My New BFF, where young women competed for the privilege of being Paris Hilton’s “New Best Friend Forever”.  It was a one-sided proposition where Paris the celebrity, auditioned those eager to earn the privilege of entering her world. The title of Friend came at a price, and I couldn’t help but think of the popularity contests in my high school that only fed teenage angst and left many of us feeling insecure and unsure of ourselves. But even as adults, friendship can still be Continue Reading

Questions Wounded Wives Ask

Renee, you've been telling us about the WIFEBOAT Online Support Groups.  What sort of topics will you cover in this program? The WIFEBOAT Online Support Group will be 2 hours a week for 12 weeks.  After we take some time to share our stories, each session will have a short teaching on subjects relevant to their recovery--boundaries, wounded femininity, children and family issues--then we'll have a group discussion on how this issue is affecting each one. I even have a special guest facilitator planned--my husband Joe will be on hand for a Continue Reading