What the Heck Was He Thinking?

I think this post on a husband's mind set will help some of you ladies understand how a guy--a Christian guy no less -- can get in so over his head with the use of porn, and other sexual sins.  My husband's post today explains it very well - check it out and let me know what you think! The Compartmentalizer Year after year I’ve heard wives agonize over the deliberate, devastating choices their husbands have made. “What was he thinking?” they’ll cry, “and how could he do a thing like that if he loved me?” The conclusion they often come to – Continue Reading

Tiger Woods: Life In Rehab

I came across this interview on ESPN's SportsCenter with writer Benoit Denizet-Lewis regarding Tiger Wood's rehab stay--what it's like in rehab for sexual addiction?   A brief disclaimer: this interview speculates that Tiger Woods is in a particular clinic, and this should not be considered an endorsement of any kind. And I do want us to respect Tiger's privacy.   For those of you who may unfamiliar with the process, I did think it was informative and sheds light on the process of "getting real" with it that an addict with a life dominating Continue Reading

Gayle Haggard Discusses Book on Oprah

Three years ago, Gayle Haggard learned of her husband Ted’s secret liaisons and drug use.  This week she explained why she stayed with him during an appearance on the Oprah Winfrey show. Her book, Why I Stayed: The Choices I Made in My Darkest Hour was released this week. Gayle received a warmer welcome from Oprah than she did the last time she and Ted appeared in January of 2009.  At that time, the documentary  The Trials of Ted Haggard was debuting on HBO, and with the scandal still fresh, Oprah approached the interview with visible Continue Reading

SHEmergency: He’s having an affair.

You just found out your husband’s having an affair. What now?” 1. Make sure he knows that you know, and that you’re requiring him to take immediate action to terminate the relationship with the other party, and to work with you on repairing the damage that’s been done to your marriage. Don’t accept a simple, “Sorry, it won’t happen again.” Instead, let him know the situation warrants action in addition to apology. 2. Immediately set an appointment with your pastor, or a Christian counselor, or a trusted mentor. As a couple, sit down with this Continue Reading

Your Husband’s Using Internet P**n. What do you do?

You just found out your husband’s using internet p**n. What do you do? 1. Make sure he knows that you know he’s been using porn, and that it is completely unacceptable to you. Don’t accept a simple, “Sorry, it won’t happen again.” Instead, let him know that you consider his porn use to be serious enough to warrant action in addition to apology.    2. Insist on getting an internet filter/accountability device immediately.   I’d recommend any of the following: Triple X Watch http://x3watch.com/ Be Safe Online Continue Reading